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CONCRETE INSTRUMENTS OF HOLINESS
The fixed points of the Ortiz de Landázuri family

1. puttinG one’s pride aside

«We know that things aren’t always easy. [...] When you’re
surrounded by diapers and whining, the danger is to create illusions
with what’s going on outside the home: work, social life, recognition,
etc. Then you need to scale back your married life and your family;
put aside your pride, talk, put yourself in the other person’s shoes,
get over the nonsense. It is charity in the highest sense, it is Love» .
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ideas For reFlection

• I reflect on the “illusions” I may encounter outside my home
that may be a temptation to me.
• «Talking, putting yourself in each other’s shoes, getting over
the nonsense». Is there anything that, right now, I can thank my spouse
for or apologize to them for? CONCRETE INSTRUMENTS OF HOLINESS

2. lovinG eacH otHer despite any FlaWs

«Laura and Eduardo always strongly identified themselves
with one another; they had learned [...] that they had to love each
other with all their flaws, and not selfishly seek their own advantage,
personal perfection, rather the growth of the family» .
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ideas For reFlection

• Over the years it can become difficult to accept your spouse’s
or your children’s shortcomings. Are there any suggestions that may
be helpful for me, in the example of Eduardo and Laura?

21 Testimony of Beatriz Castillo. Cf. Ibidem.
22 Cf. Ibidem.